Prewedding Jitters?

It is perfectly normal to be a little nervous or stressed before your wedding day, whether it be a few months or only a few days prior to the event. However, it is extremely important to analyze your feelings behind these pre-wedding jitters in order to figure out if this is something you should really be concerned about.

Cold feet before your big day can be caused by a variety of different things. It can be brought on by your own personal insecurities, serious doubts about your relationship with your fiancée or sometimes just the stress of planning such a costly and time-consuming event. Some women have a difficult time with the identity shift that takes place after getting married. This usually occurs in brides who love their single life or are very involved in their career. They may have a hard time adjusting their self-image to include that of a wife or a one man woman. If you feel this may be the cause of your cold feet, here are some helpful things that experts suggest you can do:

• Take the time to sort out your feelings about being engaged. Did you expect it to be picture perfect? If the reality isn’t like you thought it would be, this may be the source of some of your negative feelings.

• If you’re having a hard time letting go of your single-girl image, reflect on the times and certain things you valued in that period of your life. Once you have taken some time to think about each of these things, it may bring you some closure and help you to accept the new life you will be beginning with your special someone.

• It may also be helpful to you to determine how the different relationships you have with family and friends will change with your fiancée becoming your husband and a more permanent part of your life. You can get a better idea of the changes that are coming and be better prepared for them.
  

If you are having some serious doubts about your relationship or your fiancée, it may be best to go to pre-marital counseling and see the help of a professional. Issues like previous infidelities, either by you or your partner, a drug or alcohol addiction that has not been dealt with or real personality conflicts are something that need to be dealt with before you say, “I do.” In some cases, it may lead to postponing or calling off the wedding altogether. As difficult as this may be to do, it is better to end the relationship before you get married as opposed to dealing with the problems months or years down the road.

Sometimes it’s just the stresses of planning a wedding that catch up with a bride. If this is the case with you, just take some time off from planning the wedding so that you do not become overwhelmed or let your feelings about the event impact your feelings about your relationship. Heck, maybe hiring a wedding planner is just what you need!