Say Yes! To the Engagement Session

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Who really needs to get an engagement session anyways??? You do!

So, you're planning an amazing wedding with lots of color, life, people and happiness! As you start your planning process you realize everything costs more than a few pennies. With money on the mind, everyone is looking for ways to save a few bucks on different wedding related expenses. Just don’t cut the engagement session!

Before we can describe why you need an engagement session, we must define what an engagement session is like with us, Alex + Natalie.

For Alex + I, we see the engagement session as a double date with expensive cameras. We walk, we talk, we sometimes grab drinks or lunch, then we capture the two of you simply being you! Now, come wedding day, you can be rest assured knowing exactly what to expect from us, and you can feel confident that we’ll capture both the big moments—and those special small intimate moments that happen but may go unnoticed until the digitalimages are processed.

We highly recommend the engagement session for a number of reasons. Here’s why:

Dress Rehearsal – You’re planning a rehearsal for your wedding day with a dress fitting, cake sampling, actual rehearsal the night before the wedding. So, it makes sense to have a rehearsal with your photographer – and your engagement session is just that!

We take a few hours to talk and walk, have oodles of fun, candid shots and basically teach you how to relax in front of the camera. So when your wedding day arrives, you look like natural models. The goal is for you to know exactly what to expect and feel comfortable with a camera following you throughout the day.

Touchbase – We have another opportunity to grab a coffee and for you both
to get to know us better. Our mothers say we’re pretty awesome, so we think coffee and conversation with us would be fun. And, since we will be following your every move on the BIG DAY, it’s another opportunity to touchbase! From start to finish, we’ll be there standing alongside your family and friends. We’re there documenting the moments of your day to keep forever!

Because it’s fun! – It’s a lot of fun to feel special. Your wedding day is a HUGE event and you have a lot to be excited about, so let's capture some of that anticipation and excitement. The engagement session is a great way to have fun with each other, be in love and simply have a great date! It can also be a great time to book your makeup trial on the same day so you can get an idea of how your makeup will look in pictures on your wedding day too.

Twister – We strive to take the stress out of the photo experience. No twister game here. We want you to feel comfortable and natural both at your engagement session and your wedding day. During your engagement shoot, we’ll take the time to answer lots of questions and give you directives on posing if needed or desired.

It’s Eeasy – We have fun; you get to cuddle, kiss and be yourselves. We can just drink coffee, we can go for a walk, we can tromp through a field, go over a river, or through the woods. The bottom line is you’ve been

acting like yourself your whole life; all you’ve got to do is be you. You can practice being you in front of us, so when your BIG DAY comes, you’re ready to do the same thing in front of oodles of your closest peeps. YAY!

Memories – You can share your memories with family and friends through images of your engagement session. Consider a custom calendar, album or gorgeous canvas as a gift to yourselves or as a gift to your parents for having raised you for 18+ years.

Ask Questions! – We walk, we talk, you ask questions, and we ask questions. We laugh. We tackle any tough questions and discuss any concerns, plus you have both of our undivided attentions to ask our opinion
on stuff. “We” have lots of opinions…just ask Alex!
So… – There is a lot of value in an engagement session. In our mind, the best part is that you get to spend a few hours hanging out with some super duper people. We really feel it’s important as these lasting images will be around forever, long after the flowers wilt, the cake is chomped and the presents are unwrapped.

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Newlywed Decorating Dilemmas

So, you’ve just been hitched and now you’re stuck with your spouse’s huge collection of sports memorabilia. You secretly wish you could throw it away but know that it holds meaning to your spouse. How should you incorporate it into your new home? Here are some ways you can decorate and blend your styles without anyone getting upset or breaking your budget.

Antlers don't have to say "redneck"

First, it’s helpful to look at your personal inventory, magazines, model homes, and home furniture stores to get an idea of where to begin.  Once you find ideas you like, mix and match with one another to see what works and what doesn’t. If your tastes differ greatly, you might want to “assign” rooms. Choose an important room to you and give him full control over a room that is important to him. If you want to combine your styles in one room, consider making a list of items you love, items you can live with, and items you can’t stand. This will be a clear representation of what items/styles you can and cannot use.  You might be surprised to see what items your spouse chooses in each category.

Look at paint colors together. If you like neutral tones and he likes color, opt for an accent wall with one burst of color and paint the others neutral or, select the lightest tone of his favorite color to paint the entire room. It’s the best of both worlds, without being overwhelming for you and underwhelming to him.

Have you had just about enough of his ugly, wood dining table that he loves? Consider refinishing to save money. You can pretty much paint, stain, or reupholster anything, so give it a face lift if purchasing new furniture isn’t practical right now.

Warning: Do not throw away any of your spouse’s furniture and/or belongings without their permission! Pressuring them into it doesn’t count as permission either. This can lead to resentment, which should never be the way someone would want to start their marriage! You would be surprised to learn what pieces have special meaning and go back into a family’s history.

Choose accessories and textiles that don’t have a super-feminine feel. Avoid bright pinks and purples in rooms you both spend a lot of time in. Gender friendly colors such as greens, yellows, blues, grays, and other neutrals tend to be favored by both genders. However, be careful choosing shades and tints of each color; bright versions, such as turquoise or bright yellow, are not favored by all.

Don’t forget, it’s his/her home too, so be fair with decisions and try to incorporate a little bit of everything. A little elbow grease and compromise will go a long way!  Good luck! J

~ Nicole

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What Your Guests Are Saying . . .

Everyone says it’s your day, and that’s correct, to a point. This is the day you are marrying your best friend which indeed makes it a very special event. So why are all these people here? Perhaps you’ve invited them to witness this significant occasion. Perhaps you’ve invited them to celebrate the moment with you. Either way, you’ve invited them, as in, you are the host.

As the host of any party you typically have several goals you are trying to achieve – you want to spend time with your guests, you want to interject a piece of yourself into the elements, and you want to entertain and please your guests.

Ah, so you never really thought about that last one as it pertains to your wedding day? Let’s step back and take a look at what your guests could be saying if the event is approached from the me, me, me vantage point.

• “My invitation was addressed to me ‘and guest’ even though they’ve known my boyfriend for 6 years!”
Make the effort to find out the guest's name and use it on the invitation and place card.  It's a thoughtful gesture that will not go unnoticed.

• “Our invitation came with a Macy’s registry card. It seemed like they were outright asking for a gift.”
This is just one great use of a wedding website.  Not only does it share directions, timelines, and other key information about your day, but it is also a more discreet way of sharing your bridal registry information.

• “I hate receiving lines. Who wants to wait in a long line to greet the one person you do know and 10 others you don’t?”
Consider the photo above - long lines, uncomfortable shoes, and a hot day - not exactly a combo for happy guests.

• “I don’t get delays between the ceremony and the reception. I’m dressed and I’m here, let’s keep this party movin’!”
This is your day and you want to drag it out and enjoy it as much as possible, however, your guests are busy and many do not enjoy having their whole day tied up to attend a function that in reality offers them only a few hours of entertainment and enjoyment.

• “I’ve been to receptions with a ‘social’ hour, but not cocktails or hors d’oeuvres offered. When you’re waiting and trying to mingle with people you don’t know, having something in your hand is a great way to occupy your hands and may even provide an ice breaker.”
Even if there is only an hour between ceremony and reception, it is much appreciated to be offered nibblers and beverages.  It does not have to be fancy or expensive, but it should be present.

• “If I see another 10 minute slideshow of the happy couple at age 3, I’m gonna throw-up.”
There are so many creative options for putting together a more fun video presentation as opposed to the old slideshow.  Also, the old KISS acronym (Keep It Short Stupid) is great advice here - 5 minutes or less is sufficient. Make it awesome and brief, leaving your guests wanting more, not yawning!

• “As a single person, I like table assignments. At least it makes me feel like the bride and groom have put some thought into who I might have interests with.”
Most people feel awkward walking into a room and sitting with a stranger as they do not want to impose.  While determining seating charts takes time and effort, you can almost hear an audible sigh of relieve when guests realize this stressor has been removed for them.

• “Give me limited options if you want, but offer those drinks free all night. I’m your guest.”
This is a touchy subject since it so significantly impacts the budget.  A good compromise is to offer certain drinks complementary so they have the option as to whether they want to purchase something different. It is not your responsibility to finance their drunken stupor!

• “It was a buffet. One buffet. For 250 guests. Can you guess my complaint?”
A real pet peeve of the Details' staff!  Your caterer may say that one buffet is sufficient but this is because it is easier on them to setup one buffet.  Don't fall for that.  No one wants to wait 25, 30, 45 minutes or more to eat or be interspersed with those who are already back up for seconds.

• “Dinner wasn’t served until 8pm!”
People get testy when they're hungry and it definitely puts a damper on the party vibe.  If you're going for elegant, spread out the courses, don't delay the whole meal.

• “The dollar dance seemed like a cheap ploy to drain your guests of cash.”
We agree.  What part of the dollar dance says "class"?
• “I was embarrassed for the bride. Who wants their maid-of-honor sharing information like that to all of your family and friends!”
Remind your wedding party and parents that this is a memorable event but that not all past memories need to be aired.  Fun stories can be shared, but embarrassment should be nixed.

• “I realize that music at a certain volume elicits people to dance, but it was way too loud. I couldn’t even talk to my partner!”
Grandma isn't the only one who is turned off by overly loud music.  A professional dj understands the appropriate volume to get guests on the floor and not out the door.

• “Nothing seemed organized. We waited on the wedding party to arrive, we waited to be served our food, we waited on speeches, then waited while they determined who would go first, we waited on the first dance, wait, wait, wait!”
Ah, another pet peeve!  Of course, we're planners so we really notice when an event does not flow well.  Your event timeline is critical to keeping your guests engaged which in turn creates a positive memory for them rather than chalking it up to another boring event.

• “They ran out of wedding cake. This is a huge hairy deal to me!”
Okay, so this is my personal quote and it really happened.  I admit that I'm a sweet-aholic and tolerate the main course only as it gets me closer to the cake.  Imagine what my husband had to listen to all night when wedding cake ran out before it got to the last 30-40 guests served.  Never run out of wedding cake!

So in planning YOUR day, remember to plan it from the vantage point of YOUR guests!