Getting the Groom Involved

In our last blog entry, we mentioned something about getting your groom involved in your (the plural form, again) wedding. While he may not be as into all the details as you are, it’s still a good idea to include him in the plans. It’s his day, too, you know! If he hasn’t already stepped up to provide some of his own thoughts on the big day, here are a few ways to get him to do so…
· Ask him to help out with things he has an interest in. If he likes cars, let him select and arrange your transportation. If he’s a techie, maybe he can help out in choosing the lighting or other special effects. If he likes food (and what man doesn’t), bring him along to the cake tastings and catering meetings. You get the general idea.
· Give him options. But not too many options. If you’re having difficulty narrowing down some of the harder decisions to make, let him help you decide. Ask him if he likes option A better than option B, and so forth. This way, he’s included but the details aren’t overwhelming.
· We all know men aren’t good with subtle hints or vague recommendations so if you want him to help, make a list of things for him to do. The list needs to be specific and include directions on how to do each thing. This wedding to-do list can be weekly or monthly, whatever works best for the two of you, but that way, he isn’t pressured into getting them done right away – he just has a timeline in which it needs to be taken care of.
· And if you’re ready to really give up some control…try letting him plan the honeymoon. This may be difficult for some brides, as they are used to having everything their way and making sure it’s done right, however, this really gets the groom involved and maybe he’ll even surprise you.
It’s so important to remember that this is his day as well. Discuss with your groom how much he wants to be involved and go from there. This is a great thing for the two of you to do together and if you haven’t learned how already, can teach you to compromise. That’s a skill you’ll definitely be needing after the wedding is long over!

~Megan